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Lo Shu: Missing Numbers Remedy

Lo Shu Grid

Friends, Feng Shui, Lo Shu are the two oldest forms of divine and mathematical ancient Chinese art of Vastu practiced world over. This art not only helps in predicting the causes of ill effects but also provides simple remedies to the problems. The 3×3 magic square has 1 to 9 numbers which are placed in such a way that sum total of all lines and diagonals comes to 15!! A detailed post on LO SHU- was posted earlier on this blog which has been liked and appreciated by my readers across various countries Please have a look at this blog post by clicking this link; https://parveensabharwals.wordpress.com/2019/12/03/lo-shu-%e0%a4%8f%e0%a4%95-%e0%a4%85%e0%a4%a6%e0%a4%ad%e0%a5%81%e0%a4%a4-%e0%a4%95%e0%a4%b2%e0%a4%be/

Today we are going to discuss the remedies of missing numbers in the Lo Shu grid for making our lives happier and better. Each direction i.e East, West, North, South, NorthEast, Northwest, SouthEast,and SouthWest has the significance of its own and the grid identifies all numbers from 1 to 9 with the directions. For example; Number 4 is associated with southeast direction and number 9 is associated with the south direction.

The under noted Table-A has been prepared to guide you to the direction, element, and significance of each number. Any missing number in the grid reflects some deficiency in the energy that causes problems in your life. Let’s take the example of Ms. Rosy whose date of birth is 21/03/1985.

You will see that numbers 4, 6, and 7 are missing in the grid. From the Table-A given below, you will be able to establish that these numbers have great significance in one’s life. Ms. Rosy may find issues in her life inspite of a very strong 2, 5, 8 combination of Earth elements in the grid. Lo Shu provides a very simple remedy for this ill effect. Just watch for yourself:

Lo Shu Grid of Ms. Rosy
Lo Shu NoSignificanceDirectionElementRemedy
1career and life pathNorthWaterInstall a Water Fountain or Aquarium, Hang a mirror, wall clock on the east side wall of the living room
2 Love and Relationship
South WestEarthPlace a Small green plant or put up a green bulb on the southwest wall in the living room
3 Ancestral Blessings, FamilyEastWoodKeep a wooden pen or keyring with you or install a wooden clock, green scenery on the east side wall of your bedroom or a wooden dining table in the house
4 Wealth, Property and Savings South EastWoodKeep a wooden pen, keyring with you. Install a wooden clock or Mountain pic without water on the southeast wall of your living room or a wooden dining table in the house
5 Health: CentreCentreEarthWear crystal balls, Hang Crystal chandelier in the Hall:
6 Helpful People, Travel and Friends North WestMetal YellowWear a Watch with a golden strap or install a Windchime with 6 goldenrods, a Yellow pyramid   
7 Children and Creativity WestMetal(Silver)Hang Silver metal wind chimes having 7 rods on the west side of the living room. Place a white pyramid or wear a watch with a silver strap
8 Knowledge and Wisdom: North East: Earth:North EastEarthWear a necklace or pendant of crystals. Keep a crystal lotus or crystal clock Or any small crystal show piece towards the Northeast side of your living room.
9 Fame and AspirationSouthFirePut a red bulb in the South direction Or keep a red pyramid in this direction.
Table-A

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9 Kinds of People Who Can Never Succeed at Work — Inspirelife

Interesting post attributed to Harvard economist David Deming. I have come across hundreds of books/blogs on the succesful people who help you to achieve goals by showing a path with stories weaved around their personal experiences. This is just an opposite direction telling us about the types of people who never succeeed at work.

This could be my first Experience and knowledge quickly lose their relevance and success in the workplace. Harvard economist David Deming studied occupational skills from 1980 to the present and found that those emphasizing social skills grew by 24% larger, while jobs requiring technical knowledge and expertise found little growth. Deming also found that wages significantly increased jobs that emphasized […]

9 Kinds of People Who Can Never Succeed at Work — Inspirelife
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Remedies of Malefic Planets: लाल किताब; खुद अपने दुखों का निवारण करें।

लाल किताब (lal Kitab) with basic features of vedic astrolgy provides solutions and remedies to the various problems confronted by individuals in everyday life. Easy, cheap and effective way of remedial measures has made this great book worth a place in the life of everyone.

A few easy remedies are appended below for curing the ill affects caused due to Malefic position of planets.

People settled abroad may not find rivers or flowing waters for performing certain remedies due to strict rules in those countries. They can perform all these activities in any temple or isolated place with complete devotion. However these remedies should continue for 43 days to get best results under lal Kitab

SUN: Remedies of Malefic Sun

  1. Have a good moral Character
  2. Worship Lord Vishnu, Lord Rama or Lord Krishna
  3. Never accept anything in charity like Jaggery Gur, Wheat and Copper made items
  4. Throw Gur/Copper/wheat in flowing water or bury in isolated place
  5. Don’t have intimate relationship even with your wife during the day time
  6. Start any auspicious work after taking sweets and drinking water
  7. Blow off fire with milk than water
  8. Main entrance of house should be in east. Seek Vastu assistance if its not possible

Moon:Remedies on Malefic Moon

  1. Keep a vessel full of water or milk under your bed during night and pour the water in kikar tree
  2. Serve your mother well and seek blessings every morning
  3. Use silver utensils if possible
  4. Dont get married at the age of 24
  5. If moon in aries then don’t deal in dairy products
  6. if in aquarious Rashi then worship lord shiva
  7. Donate milk, rice or silver

Mars: Remedies of Malefic Mars

  1. Float revris or batasha in the river or distribute sweets
  2. Help your brother from time to time without public attention
  3. Respect and Keep giving red clothes to bhua, sister or maternal aunt
  4. Tuesday fast and donate Sindoor in Hanuman ji temple
  5. Throw masoor dal, honey or sindoor in river

Mercury: Remedies of Malefic Mercury

  1. Respectfully with folded hands float copper piece with hole in the river
  2. Float Moong dal in river
  3. Serve crow,dog and cow from your food
  4. Burry honey in a mud pot in a lonely place
  5. Clean your teeth with fitkari
  6. Floating of mud pitcher in river
  7. Pierce nose
  8. Wear a copper coin around neck
  9. Donate Green clothes and bangles to Eunuch

Jupiter:Remedies of Malefic Jupiter

  1. Eat kesar or apply on tongue or nabhi
  2. Apply turmeric or kesar on forehead
  3. Never get peepal tree cut and try to water peepal tree regularly
  4. Donate chana dal, Kesar, turmeric, gold in yellow cloth in temple
  5. Do Durga puja and Ganesh Puja
  6. Serve Food to poor girls
  7. Wear gold and yellow thread in neck
  8. Do not keep God idols at home if jupiter in 7th house
  9. water peepal tree and grow yellow coloured flowers.

Venus:Remedies of Malefic Venus

  1. Donate Cow or fodder to cows
  2. Donate in bronze vessel
  3. blue flower to goddess Saraswati on Friday evening
  4. Use perfume or aromatic scents on fridays
  5. Give misri,camphor, ghee and curd at holy place

Saturn:Remedies of Malefic Saturn

  1. Offer food to crows for 43 days
  2. Donate iron made items but wear a ring made of horse shoe in your middle finger
  3. Pour spirit, oil or wine on the ground during morning hours at the sunrise for 43 days
  4. Donate oil on saturdays
  5. worship Bhairon and donate wine in the temple
  6. Feed bread with mustard oil to dogs and crow. Donate black lentil, coal,leather goods,timber

Rahu: Remedies of Malefic Rahu

  1. Donate Radish in charity or float coal in water
  2. Joint family system should be preferred
  3. Try to locate dining table near your kitchen. Keep kitchen clean
  4. Dont harm your brother or sister
  5. Keep saunf or sugar in red bag under your pillow
  6. Keep gangajal at home and if pssible sprinkle gangajal in your house
  7. Keep silver box or silver coin with you
  8. Donate Red masoor to the sweeper or temple
  9. Float barley or coconut in the river
  10. Float wheat or barley equal to the weight of the ill person with malefic Rahu

Ketu:Remedies of Malefic Ketu

  1. Donate Sesame seeds in charity
  2. Donate white and black blankets made of wool in temple
  3. Apply kesar or turmeric on forehead
  4. wear gold around neck or wrist
  5. Wear silver in foot toe
  6. Give milk, rice red masoor in charity
  7. Do Ganesh Puja regularly
  8. Keep a black and white dog at home or feed such dog

Hi Readers, I will shortly come up with an art to read and analyse your own horoscope Find the hurdles and reasons which are effecting your life You will find solutions to fix the problems for better future all by yourself. Keep reading and commenting friends

Unforgettable Moments

It was in the afternoon of April 2010 that a young girl accomapnied by a burly smart guy was waiting outside my office. I remained preoccupied due to Audit work which follows evey year in Banks after annual closing at the end of a particular financial year. Attending to the queries of a team of auditors on the job, I looked up momentrily to find this girl sitting in the waiting area. Normally, any visitor is taken care of by the team of executives working in the Banking Hall but the girl looked restless and eager to get up and enter my cabin.

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Sensing the urgency, I could see the girl reluctantly knocking and seeking permissiion to enter my cabin. Immediately excusing myself from the Audit team,I welcomed the visitors “Tell me! How can I help you” as I prompted her to intiiate the discussion. She was looking for an education loan from our Bank as no other Bank was entertaining her application for the unexplained reasons. As I dwelled deeper for the information, I found the guy more proactive and kept providing with half known facts which irritated me. “Please don’t interupt and let her come up with the reply”I had to rebuke him sternly with instructions to keep silent otherwise move out.

As she started narrating her stories, I got milder and more concerned about the genuine cause of her further studies. The guy was her fiancee and her father was an Auto driver. She was reluctant and not comfortable telling me about the status of her family particularly the profession of her father.However my efforts to make her comfortable and feel at ease attitude, could extract the whole information after interviewing her for about 30 minutes.

It was heartening to note that she was funding even her school education by doing some tuition work in the late evenings. She was very humble, honest having clear vision about her perceptions

More and more she unwinded the story, she looked relaxed and hopeful about her future education. She wanted to pursue her degree in Fine Arts but most of the Banks try to finance education loans to the potential Enginerers,Doctors and other high tech professionals for the only reason that their prospectus of getting good jobs in the country or overseas are better than those pursuing their careers in other verticals.

It indeed was a wrong notion of keeping their accounts safe for recovery. My experience in the Banking Industry believed in prompt and quick disposal of loan requests with a human face. A satisfied customer will always pay back the installments of loan regularly even if he/she is not sufficiently paid by the employer.

She was carrying documents about the ranking she got in the Entrance Exams, a provisional admission letter from the institute, evidence of her family income and academic record. She was a topper through out her schooling. After corrobrating her statements with the record, I was impressed and convinced about genuinenes of the case.

The decision was yet to be made as hierchy down the line, Loans officer responsible for compliling the proposal and recommending it for final approval needed to be discussed. But the smile on her face and satisfaction seen through her eyes spoke of the relief she was feeling after being heard with intense concentration and compassion. Advising them to sit and wait outside for a while, I took time to discuss the story with my staff who despite showing a few reservations agreed: though with an element of surprise!!

Although stuck up with the audit work which needed priority attention, she was advised to come back with the required information in a weeks time. In education loans, co-obligants are the parents as no tangible security could be insisted upon as per the prevailing guidlines. The Loan documents needed to be signed by her father as well. The designated day turned out to be saturday giving us just a few hours of working those days. The time slot was alloted to bring her father on saturday after she showed her reluctance due to peak hours of her father working on the weekdays.

Documentation and release of the initial instalment of the sanctioned loan amount took an hour or so. The girl with a cheque of 100,000/- in her hand wore an unbelievable benevolent smile on her face as if showing a trophy on winning the final race of her life.

The family looked very down to earth and obliged for prompt disbursement of Loan amount to the girl.

I am not writing this story to sing my own praises for this particular case but this was a routine during the entire length of my Banking career spanning over more than 35 years. I was never confronted with bad debts due to non recovery of Loan installments. This satisfaction goes on filling my heart with a sense of pride for doing my duty with purpose and empathy towards the deserving class of the society.

Dear readers, I would love to have your observations telling me what more should have been done. Kudos to the girl and her confidence for the efforts to find a way to continue her pusruit for higher education. My entire unit did a commendable job by going beyond the traditional barriers of not entertaining any fresh loans proposal during the audit work..

Happy reading and have a blessed day!!

Defects(दोष): Reasons and Remedies: लाल किताब

Dosha or Defects in astrology, means un-favorable position of planets in your Horoscope which delays or nullify the hard work you have been doing in your life. Sudden loss of job/business/illness and hardships start happening at regular intervals making the life hell and you are perplexed never knowing the real cause of such developments. Here are a few different types of doshas which may hamper your progress in life: Symptoms and solutions will certainly help you in mitigating the adverse effects and make your life better.

Manglik Dosh

Mangal Dosh is the most common Dosh as 50% of the people have Mangal Dosh in their birth chart. Mangal Dosh occurs when the Mars planet is present in 2, 4, 7, 8, 12 house of your horoscope. The biggest misconception of Mangal Dosh in Vedic astrology is the death of spouse if a manglik marries a non manglik person. This could be true to some extent but there are other factors which neutrilises the effect of manglik Dosh.

Manglik Doshas in Vedic astrology is not effective if mars is present in its own house.

SOLUTION:

The commonly recommended solution for Manglik or Mangal dosh is to get a couple married, when both suffer from the same Dosha. Since two negatives make one positive, this is one of the remedies which an expert astrologer would usually recommend, especially when the Mangal dosh is low in intensity. With two people suffering from the same dosha, the Manglik Dosha gets nullified.

Kumbh Vivah: This is another remedy where a native is made to marry a banyan or a peepal tree first. It is after this ceremony, the bride and groom are allowed to marry each other. This is usually recommended when the Manglik Dosh is severe.

Chanting Mantra: This is another simple remedy recommended by most astrologers. Worship Especially Navagraha or Gayathri Mantra on every Tuesday. By doing so, the native is relieved, slowly from the clutches of Manglik or Mangal Dosh.

Fasting on Tuesdays: This is again a simple method that is done eternally to reduce the ill effects of Mangal dosh. This can also be done by the natives who suffer from Mangal dosh and are married to each other.

Visiting Hanuman temple on every Tuesday. This will again reduce the extra energy of Mangal or Planet Mars in a native’s chart.

Visit Lord Karthikey’s temple every Tuesday to reduce the ill effects.

A native with Manglik dosh is also advised to wear coral gem embedded in copper or a silver ring. This would channelize the energies well.

The native suffering from Manglik Dosh is also advised to wear a silver bracelet on the left hand. This would help provide relief from the ill-effects of Manglik Dosha.

Red Lentil and Jaggery feeding to Cows on Tuesdays also provides relief

Pitra Dosh

We all know that whenever our parents or ancestors die leaving behind big Bank Balances or property, this money automatically gets transferred to our accounts. A few diseases like diabetes etc are also sometimes passed on to the successors without their knowledge.

Similarly If our ancestors have done something bad, then we will suffer from Pitra dosha or paitrik dosha or Pitri Rin.
Pitra Dosha or Pitru Dosha causes many obstacles in a person’s life. It forms in one’s horoscopes due to Pitra Dosha effects or our bad karma, we would have committed in the past.

Sun according to Vedic astrology is the father and moon is the mother, whereas Rahu and Saturn are the enemies of these two. So if Sun/Moon, Rahu and Saturn are in the same house then pitra dosha occurs. You will not progress because of this dosha.

If Sun is aspacted by any malefic planet like Rahu or Saturn, there will be pitra dosh.

If Sun is placed with Rahu, in 5th house or Sun is placed with Rahu in 9th house, Pitra Dosh will occur.

An individual may also be under adverse effects of inauspicious Shrapit Yoga(dosha) if Rahu is placed with Saturn.

Symptoms:

We are perplexed to find obstacles at the time of accomplishment of our work.In spite of our best efforts, we do not succeed due to Pitru Dosha effects. We often find that the family members face one trouble or the other and do not get rid of the problems, even if one’s deeds are good.

Infact it is due to the effects of our Karmic debts of past or present or Pithru Dosham/ Pitru Dosha, Pitri Rin that we face the inevitable and unexpected difficulties and hardships in our life.

Obstacles in education and delay in growth of career or no improvement in the financial situation of either self or children.

Delay in the marriage of family member or self, divorce or problems in the married life of self or children, which makes us think or analyze what wrong we would have done in the past or present life.

The problem in conceiving or repeated miscarriage.

Accidents or sudden deaths in the family.

Inherited diseases and prolonged illness to the family members.

Mental subnormality in the child.

Birth of a physically disabled or unwanted child.

Disputes in the family and Addictions.

Never ending poverty. People always remain under debts and are unable to clear their debts despite all their best efforts.

SOLUTIONS:

Sharadh falls during the months of Sept or October every year. Perform with sincerity and full faith to remember and pay homage to our forefathers.

Complete the Shraddh on the date on which our ancestors died.

Offer water to the Banyan tree on Amavasya.

Worship Peepal Tree

One should offer water to the Pitras for 15 days during the Pitra Paksha  Shraddha or on the Tithi on which the ancestors died, and remember them

Help in maintining hospitals or charitble instituion/underprivileged people

Feed cows or throw a silver coin in the flowing water respectfully remebering ancestors

Kaal sarp Yog:

when all the panets in your horoscope lie in between Rahu and ketu, its said to result in Kaal Sarpa Yoga

Symptoms:

 

  • Need to struggle a lot in life for small things.
  • Lack of happiness in life.
  • A feeling of loneliness at the time of need.
  • Problem or delay in promotion
  • Viewing dead ancestors in dreams.
  • Dream of water bodies.
  • Fear of snakes and its bite.

SOLUTIONS: According to LalKitab, the effect of KaalSarp Dosh is minimized by:

The flow of coconut and lentil with spiked water in the flowing water.

You can also donate fresh radish to remove it.

Also, peacock feathers should be kept at home and in the shop.

Have meals sitting in the kitchen. If married life is disturbed due to issues with life partner then remarry.

Float more live fishes than your age.

Worship Lord Ganesha daily.

Touch Peepal tree on saturdays and offer sweet water in it.

Make a hole in the coconut and put sesame, dry fruit,sugar, ghee and bury it in isolated place for ants on saturday.

Donate one handful of green kidney beans chanting Rahu mantra.

Put a picture of Krishan dancing on Nag on the south wall of your bed room.

Fast on Mahashivratri. Offer pair of snakes made of silver on shivalaya on mahashivratri.

Offer food to black or black n white dog from your own food by dipping in milk.

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रिश्ते: A Bond of Mutual Love and Compassion

Like streams of holy water carrying the purity of traditional values, a group of six families looking for greener pasteuers settled in Princeton, a historical city known for the famous Princeton University USA in the early days of 2014. Coming from diverse culture,region,religion and family backgrounds from India, a country known more as a land of snake charmers or elephants rather than the historical buildings,scientists, yoga and values attached since ancient times to this second biggest democracy in the world.

Aman Preet, a tall handsome, smiling, polished, clean shaven Panjabi guy employed in one of the leading Banks in USA was the first to arrive. Accompanying him was Anupriya, a beautiful accompalished wife with two daughters, they had rented a Ist Floor apartment overlooking entire stretch of the cross section of roads flanked by more than 20 appartments.

Other five families kept moving in at regular intervals, last being the youngest one. Originally from the northern state Rajastahn, Abhinav a handsome talented guy imbibing traditional values employed with a leading IT company shifted with two kids and Varsha a beautiful adorable ever smiling amiable wife. This couple added flavour to the group with their mannerism, wits and always ready to help others intiatives.

Raghu, a smart handsome guy from Hyderabad followed alongwith Neha and two kids. Neha a tall lean and beautiful girl from Indore was always up there to blend the western “Tadka” with desi touch to bring every meeting a lively experience .

Girish and Sapna coming from Mumbai, the financial capital of India added glamour as Sapna a beautiful smiling adorable home maker would mesmerise with her simply majestic sense of dressing. Girish a cool, mild natured, smiling young boy who may not have caused any difference with his presence during the parties but the absence was irritating for everyone for his gounded personality

A mix of Gujrati and western culture brought a cultivated ambitious couple who always looked for better career prospectus by keeping a low profile. A peculiar habit of buying only a branded item made Ashu a late starter as she would not compromise with anything less than the planned purchase. The sweet natured talkative Ashu and Mehul, a relaxed hubby would form an inevitable part of the group

Saurabh and Pankhudi from Dehradun with religious and teetotaller bent of mind were slow starter for their inhibitions about the late night parties involving Drinks and Non veg delicacies initially. With two girls, the couple looked a satisfied lot having been able to achieve what they had wished for settling in the USA. Saurabh would assume the role of a photographer for clicking a few joyous and funny moments of the party but never forgetting to click the couples individually with his guided instructions like a professional .

Not only the careers or academic level, all the six families were more or less into the same age group starting their parentage with a kid or two. As has always been back home, the young working people don’t feel comfortable mixing up freely due to their own inhibitions but a glance or two appreciating the kids playing in parking area definitely helped in starting a casual hello hi during the late evening excursions. !

Whatever be their place of origin, goals or aspirations but one thing was common which blended well to make them a family without any blood connection. They were all intelligent,responsible, charming and adorable individuals who never complained but looked for pleasant company of each other

The common parking area sprouted seeds of enduring relationship between these young aspiring families. Every evening, they would venture out of their apartments for a dose of fresh air in the beautifully landscaped lush green environment. The kids would love to play in the open compound as two other groups of Adam and Eves went about gossiping about the newly attained status of NRIs. Very cautious initially, they soon found enough room to talk about their Indian backgrounds and families.

A few vehicles would pass bye on the adjacent spiralling road hardly sounding horns or zooming past the lane. Unlike India, the drivers looked patient and more conscious about the privacy and serenity of the inhabitants. A small triangular island snadwitched between the two rows of Appartments looked majestic with green velvet grass and a few trees booming with flowers of violet colours. sidewalks spruced up with all weather flowers on the berms and beautifhul landscapping provided a soothing touch for the eyes.

First Winters had a lot of snowfall and handling the life in those tough weathers was a challenge. It was inconvenient for Abhinav and family as they were inhabiting the ground floor apartment and overnight snowing would block the entrance making it difficult to open the door early in the morning The cars laden with white sheet of snow remained stuck for days making it difficult to venture out for shopping. Gradually, they were accusomed and acclimatised to the new conditions and extreme weather..

Access to a nearby Princeton Railway station was a boon for commuting between Newyork and Princeton as use of their own car as preferrred transport mode was neither viable nor practical in the early period of their settlement overseas.

Well said “when you are outside the country at a strange place, you tend to find the people of your own culture, language and traditions” and these families were no different. The similarities of costumes, peculiar mannerism and language reminded them of their homes back in India. Shortly they found the first opportunity of get together. The festival seasons in India and USA usually start in the month of October and end with the celebrations by welcoming the new year.

It was the festival of lights Diwali which they unanimously decided to celebrate. It was a great fun as the crackers and sweets followed by dinner and drinks were in abundance to mark the occasion after performing Puja at their respective homes. Aman with his perfection on cocktails was a hit as everyone had his/her share of taste on thos first outing. Brimming with confidence after this first event successfully hosted as per the traditional Indian culture, they looked all set for furthering the celebratory moods in future too.

Slowly these festivals and celebrations made them feel for each other. Initial hitch started vanishing as the bonding got stronger. Everybody looked impatient and eager to host his turn which happened every few days. The tinkling noise of glasses had started filling the hearts with abundance of joy. Slowly every member was coming out of his shell by contributing with surprise talents. Though tinkler would not be a proper term for any of them but they relished a drink or two whenever they found opportunity.

Having a complete vegetarian and teetotaller family never dampened the spirits of the group. Rather everybody enjoyed the veg menus and snacks whenever this family found turn to host the group. Initially, everyone tried to observe strict parameters of not drinking within the four walls of their home and would love to gather outside using car roof as a raised table for enjoying their drinks right on the berms of an isolatted road. Great idea by Aman and Abhinav supported by the ladies enjoying their share with lots of fun sitting on the boot. Cheers!!kept filling the air with the intoxication of love and brotherhood warming up for each other!!

Every now and then they started finding excuses to have a get together as the chidlren enjoyed their companies too. Well aware of their limitations and traditional values, the males mixed up with the females very conveniently but never crossed the barriers of their culture. Songs and witty jokes would flow in tandem with dances to follow. sapna, Neha and Varsha would always the first one to start gyrating on the Hindi numbers and others followed on western music.

The purity of relationship was like watching your reflection in a still clear water. It was like a home away from home where a family member understands rights and responsibilities towards the whole family without ever having to be reminded of.

Weekends were no more a boring monotonous activity but it started getting livelier and full of exhuberance for all. Exploring nearby locations for tracking or going to tourist attractions had become a regular schedule. . Newyork, the most happening city remained on the list of all kids as the fun filled vibrations of western music and the fast food provided them much needed comforts from their school routine. Visits by the parents from India was also a regular feature. They were satisfied on finding the grand kids being groomed in western culture without ever forgetting the traditional Indian values.

Sometimes you feel frustrated on the sudden develpoments in life and these families were not different as the kids started growing. The two bedroom appartments looked small to accommodate the visitting relatives/grand parents.

Though difficult they started moving out in 2017. With sufficient Bank balances in their accounts and easy availablty of mortgage loans for buying their own houses instead of paying rent, the search started for finding areas of their choice. Whereas some insisted for settling in the Indian dominated localities like Jersey City, others moved out for better schooling or better prices nearby.

Aman was first to leave followed by Abhinav who preferred a far off place an upcoming city known for better schooling They looked heart broken as every other month the news of movement arrived and they spent hours together drinking and enjoying the company as if they are not going to meet again. The toddlers had grown as kids, kids started going to school as young ones, the younger attained puberty and a few were going to cross the sweet sixteen stage shortly.

The time has passed but the sweetness has deepened as intensity of relationship grew between all these families

They were settling in different cities of New Jersey making it at least an hour journey from each other but meeting regularly was a challenge as behaviour of children could change due to their own priorities with growing age. Raghu stayed in Princeton as he preferred the area due to better schooling and personal comforts due to cosmopolitan nature of the city. Besides, Raghu and Neha had their place of work only a few minutes drive from Princeton

Soon the things started rolling again as they decided for a night out and celebrate festivals regularly at the pre decided venues. X-Mas at Abhinav’s residence in Jersey city, Diwali celebrations at Raghu’s place in Princeton and New Year eve at Aman’s place was ana annual feature awaited eagerly by all. The excitement was loud and clear for everyone as the kids wanted some extra hours to spend for playing games and running around the whole night without worrying to return home with heavy heart in the late hours.

Occasional night out brought more cheers for the lot. They would dance, shout, play and drink the whole night as the venue looked spruced up with the festive activity and vibrations of love and care for each other.

However with long faces they would say Good bye in the morning reluctantly but promising to be back again in the near future. That was the spirit and intensity of relationship which culminated into bond of care, affection and respect for each other. The growing up kids reciting shlokas in Sanskrit and others following up with traditional Indian dances or songs provided soothing touch to the eyes for keeping our culture alive in the minds of coming generation.

With all their priorities of worldy pleasures like owning house, good education for the children, established bright careers, settling as citizens of USA sorted out, the roots remain firmly grounded to the traditional Indian values.

I may not always be there to relish and participate in such a lively and absorbing family culture but would keep showering my love for this beautiful family. Who says, the relationship happens by sharing common blood vessels flowing in the arteries of two individuals.It indeed is a matter of understanding feelings, mutual respect and care between the two ivdividuals which make the relationship enduring and lasting for ever.